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Is SHE Cheating? - Many Unsuspecting Husbands Find Out Too Late
By Ruth Houston
Couples therapists report a 50% increase in female infidelity. The cover story in the current issue of Newsweek
magazine is all about cheating wives: "The New Infidelity - From Office Affairs to Internet Hook-Ups, More Wives
Are Cheating Too." Yet, as widespread as female infidelity has become, many unsuspecting husbands have no idea
their wives are having an affair. They often find themselves in a situation like David in the Newsweek article, who
found out his wife was cheating the day she told him she wanted a divorce. Unsuspecting husbands are often
surprised when they learn about a cheating wife's extramarital affair. But, the stark reality is that if a husband
isn't familiar with the signs of infidelity, by the time he finds out his wife is cheating, it's usually too
Women Don't Become Cheaters Overnight
Yet many of the signs may have been there all along. A woman doesn't become a cheating wife overnight. Infidelity
develops in stages. In almost every case, there are numerous telltale signs along the way. In fact, many of the
warning signs of impending infidelity are evident long before the physical act of infidelity actually takes
Know How to Spot the Telltale Signs
The husband who knows how to spot the signs of infidelity has a fighting chance to save his marriage. He won't end
up like John LeSage in the Newsweek article who was devastated when he came home one day and found that his wife of
24 years had disappeared. John said, "I would have done a lot things differently, but I never got the chance." This
loving, but unsuspecting husband never knew his marriage was in jeopardy because he was unfamiliar with the warning
Identifying the Problem
The first step in solving a problem is knowing that the problem exists. There are certain telltale signs that serve
as a wake-up call that a marriage is in trouble. A husband doesn't need to hire a private detective or invest in
sophisticated surveillance equipment to find out if his wife is having an affair. If he knows what to look for, all
he needs are his eyes, his ears and his personal knowledge of his wife. Knowing what to look for is the key.
21 Categories of Telltale Signs
There are 21 categories of telltale signs, with numerous signs in each category. Of course, no can be expected to
know them all. That's why it makes sense to invest in a relationship reference book like Is He Cheating on You? in
order to become more knowledgeable about the warning signs. After all, most families have a medical reference book
in their home to alert them to the signs and symptoms of health and medical problems. The same thing applies to
marital problems like infidelity.
Universal Telltale Signs
Some of the signs of infidelity documented in Is He Cheating on
You? - 829 Telltale Signs apply exclusively to cheating men. But many of the signs are universal and apply to both
cheating husbands and cheating wives. Additional information about infidelity can be found at www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com Although the website is primarily directed to women, about a third
of the e-mails received come from men seeking advice about various telltale signs.
So What Should a Husband Do?
With infidelity affecting 80% of all marriages, the husband who values his marriage would do well to become
familiar with the warning signs. He should always strive to be aware of his wife's feelings and keep abreast of the
things that are going on in her life. It's not about being overly suspicious. It's about keeping a finger on the
pulse of his marriage. Forewarned is forearmed. This way, he'll be equipped to recognize even the most subtle
telltale signs. The future of his marriage may well depend on his ability to spot those telltale signs in time.